I think I'm feeling overwhelmed. this is long sorry.?

to be honest with you, you need to pack up your baby and move on. If he's treating you the way he is, not even mentioning either one of you on the websites, and not helping you at all wth the baby it's not going to get any easier. You are living the life of a single mother, with 2 children really...only one causes you more grief. Talk to him about the way you feel and if he doesn't show any emotion towards it and acts like he doesn't care, then it's time to move on. It would be better off for you and the baby. Things start off like this, then eventually turn ugly.